No I get it, I have been there, and most women have but won’t admit it…

If you’re anything like me, there are days when everything feels heavy.

You’re tired.
Overstimulated.
Burnt out from doing all the things and still feeling like it’s not enough.

And in those moments, it’s so easy to scroll, see something pretty, and think:
Maybe if I buy this, I’ll feel better. Maybe if I run and grab a coffee I will feel better.. 

But here’s the truth most of us don’t talk about:
That feeling doesn’t come from the item — it comes from what we’re hoping the item will fix.

You wake up in the morning and think here we go again. Trying to enjoy your day with 7,000 tabs open in your brain. Coffee is brewing, the dog wants out & the cat threw up again. And you think I do the right thing, I show up for my kids, we have amazing memories, but something is off. SAHM, working moms or even women who just want a side hustle, a purpose are longing for that. they are longing for the freedom, maybe helping pay off debt for themselves or they as a couple.  Because let’s be honest, we want change sometimes, we want better for ourselves, Most women I talk to aren’t chasing luxury. They’re chasing peace. They want to breathe when the bills come in. They want to say yes to family vacations without feeling guilty. They want options. Yes, most enjoy simple things but to live, even cost money..

The woman who builds a successful business isn’t always the smartest woman in the room. She’s usually the one who finally stopped quitting on herself.

The cycle we don’t realize we’re in

When we’re overwhelmed or emotionally drained, our brains crave relief, fulfillment, peace.

But the relief is temporary. And then we’re left with:

• More wasted money spent b/c we thought shopping would cure it

• headache b/c we thought those glasses of wine were it 

• And the same burnout underneath it all comes out again in the shower with a meltdown 

…and so you scroll tik tok thinking that maybe you will buy another course and see all these influencers making bank, and you would love a piece of the pie. Guess what, you can have it.

Gratitude changes how we see everything

When we slow down and truly look at what we already have, something shifts.

That couch you wanted to replace?
It still holds your family.

That kitchen you keep comparing to Pinterest?
It feeds you.

That home that feels “unfinished”?
It shelters you.

When we practice gratitude — real gratitude, not toxic positivity — our mindset softens. We stop chasing the next thing and start recognizing that we are already blessed beyond measure, even if life feels messy right now.

And from that place, decisions feel calmer. Clearer. Kinder to ourselves.

For the woman who is exhausted

If you’re burnt out, this isn’t about working

harder or “doing better.”

It’s about gentleness.

It’s about understanding that:

• You don’t need a new life —  you need to take one day at a time. We need to stop rushing. 

• You don’t need a new aesthetic — you need space to breathe

• You don’t need more — you need support

This blog post is about many things, but my point is I have been there, I wanted to be with my children more,& whether it’s more time with your pet, in your garden, etc  you are wanting more freedom or extra time / money. 

I hear this ALL the time, women wanting a different way, to feel better about themselves, and to have a minute alone. Time and time again we spend too much wasted money on course, we eat healthier & give up, we start exercising ( maybe ) but the point is is we crave to be better but we don’t have alot of support or time.    

A softer way forward

Instead of changing all at once for the better, 

• take small self love for yourself daily ( this can be a hot bath alone for an hour)

• Refresh your space

• order your favorite takeout

• Drink your coffee in peace 

And most importantly, remind yourself:

I am allowed to move at my own pace.
I am doing the best I can.
I already have more than I realize.

Because when your mindset shifts, your habits follow — naturally.

And from that place, you can start to focus on you and what you want as for as more income, maybe taking a trip, maybe switching jobs, whatever it may be. The point is take care of yourself. 
You build a peaceful life. 🤍

For the burned-out, overwhelmed mama 

If you’re a mom who feels disconnected, tired, or unsure of herself lately — you’re not broken. You’re overstimulated, pulled in too many directions, and probably giving everyone else the best parts of you.

For me, things didn’t change overnight. They changed when I put blinders on.

I stopped measuring my life against what I saw online and started focusing on what was right in front of me — my children, my husband, my health, and my home. When I simplified my focus, my nervous system finally had room to breathe.

A gentle morning routine made a bigger difference than I expected. Nothing fancy — just small, consistent choices:

• Taking my vitamins and supplements

• Drinking more water

• Going for short walks ( game changer if you are anxious like me ) 

• Eating better, not perfect

Those tiny acts added up to more energy, clearer thinking, and a little more patience each day.

Social media was another big shift. I had to remind myself that what we see online isn’t real life — it’s a highlight reel. Setting time limits, muting accounts that triggered comparison, and being more present in my own home helped me feel grounded again.

Burnout doesn’t mean you need a complete life overhaul. It usually means your habits need support, your mindset needs compassion, and your expectations need to soften.

And here’s the most important part:
Small steps are not small. They’re everything.

A 10-minute walk matters.
A nourishing meal matters.
Choosing rest over scrolling matters.

Confidence slowly comes back when you keep promises to yourself — even the tiny ones.

You’re allowed to change your habits.
You’re allowed to protect your peace.
And you’re allowed to build a life that feels calm, not constantly “catching up.”

When you can focus on what it is you want I feel like you can do anything & that for me was starting my business, having a purpose outside of being a mother. I live for my children and I noticed myself slowly going for quiet small minutes alone in the bathroom to get peace. I found myself really searching for who I was because I was so overwhelmed with it all, and loosing myself. 

I did exactly what I mentioned above, and basically was a hermit for months ( unless it was what my kids or husband wanted to do I was home!)

I am not saying you need to do that, but I am saying cut out the noise, because at the end of the day, it really comes down to how bad do you want this?

For years I searched for something that could give me purpose outside of motherhood while still allowing me to be present with my family. I wasn’t looking to become a millionaire overnight. I wanted to contribute financially, learn new skills, and prove to myself that I could build something of my own. ( in my robe!)

I started with affiliate marketing. Like many women, I bought courses, got excited, became overwhelmed, and questioned whether I was cut out for any of it. But every time I learned something new, I took one more step.

Eventually that led me to Pinterest marketing. Today I help business owners grow their businesses through Pinterest while supporting women inside our community with everything from email automations and digital products to funnels and marketing strategies.

Looking back, I realize the biggest thing that changed wasn’t my business—it was me.

Marketing is easier when you don’t have to do it alone.